The New Year can be stressful. We go into January thinking that some far-away clock will be reset—erasing the past and paving the way for an easy future. But that’s not usually the case. Come January, we often find that our same-old problems still persist. We’re still the same person, after all.
In late December, we set our resolutions for the new year. On January 1st, we get started. At first it’s easy. We start counting our success.
One day. Two days. Three days.
“This is it," we tell ourselves. "This is finally the year."
Then something happens.
We mess up.
The streak ends.
Then comes the shame. Hopelessness. The winning streak is gone. Erased. We ask, “what’s the point?” and give up.
We’ll try again next year.
Starting a new year comes with a lot of pressure. The pressure to be perfect. To never break that winning streak. To never fail.
But that’s no way to live.
This year, let’s try a different kind of resolution.
Let’s toss out our winning streaks. Let’s shed the weight of pressure leading to shame.
Let’s take our resolutions one day at a time.
We don’t have to attach the fear of shame and failure to our resolutions. We don’t have to stay down when we fall. And we don’t have to wait for every January 1st to take the first step towards a better life.
The power to create a better way of life is available today and every day.
If we fail. That’s ok. Tomorrow is a new day.
Tomorrow is always a new day.
Creating a new way of life isn’t about maintaining a perfect winning streak. It’s about waking up every day and taking that next step. It’s about finding the help and support system you need to achieve your dreams. It’s about opening up and accepting yourself for who you are, faults and all.
This year, take life one day at a time. Avoid shame. Speak your struggle. Learn about yourself.
And most importantly, love yourself.