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Why you should break your winning streak

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The New Year can be stressful. We go into January thinking that some far-away clock will be reset—erasing the past and paving the way for an easy future. But that’s not usually the case. Come January, we often find that our same-old problems still persist. We’re still the same person, after all.

In late December, we set our resolutions for the new year. On January 1st, we get started. At first it’s easy. We start counting our success.

One day. Two days. Three days. 

“This is it," we tell ourselves. "This is finally the year."

Then something happens. 

We fail. 

We mess up.

The streak ends.

Then comes the shame. Hopelessness. The winning streak is gone. Erased. We ask, “what’s the point?” and give up.

We’ll try again next year.

Repeat.

Repeat.

Repeat.

Starting a new year comes with a lot of pressure. The pressure to be perfect. To never break that winning streak. To never fail.

But that’s no way to live.

This year, let’s try a different kind of resolution. 

Let’s toss out our winning streaks. Let’s shed the weight of pressure leading to shame.

Let’s take our resolutions one day at a time.

We don’t have to attach the fear of shame and failure to our resolutions. We don’t have to stay down when we fall. And we don’t have to wait for every January 1st to take the first step towards a better life.

The power to create a better way of life is available today and every day.

If we fail. That’s ok. Tomorrow is a new day. 

Tomorrow is always a new day.

Creating a new way of life isn’t about maintaining a perfect winning streak. It’s about waking up every day and taking that next step. It’s about finding the help and support system you need to achieve your dreams. It’s about opening up and accepting yourself for who you are, faults and all.

This year, take life one day at a time. Avoid shame. Speak your struggle. Learn about yourself. 

And most importantly, love yourself.

5 healthy tips to tackle stress this holiday season

If you've ever experienced stress during the holidays, you're not alone. Turns out, more Americans say they feel like their stress goes up this time of year than those who say it goes down (which is kinda the point of a holiday, right?)

That's why we've compiled a short list of healthy tips to help make the holidays feel a little more jolly.

1. Give yourself a break.

Nothing spells stress like unrealistic expectations. Set your own expectations this year for what to cook, what to buy, where to travel. Especially if this past year has been particularly stressful already for you. If ever there were a time to rest, it's the holidays!

2. Reach out.

Seek out support and encouragement from friends, family, your community. You might be surprised at who is eager to help. Flip side: volunteer or give a hug! Either way, try to step a bit out of your comfort zone if you have to, joy might be hiding around the corner.

3. Set finance goals.

The #1 cause of stress this time of year is finances. Set a goal that's reasonable to you and stick to it. There are also ways to get creative with gift-giving on a budget. Think outside the box this year with how you show your loved ones you care about them!

4. Don't abandon healthy habits.

Keep moving. Take a walk after a holiday meal. Also, sleep well! It's easy to get caught up in wrapping presents, preparing meals, celebrating life with those you love, but all that is hard work! Don't forget your ZZZs.

5. Know if it's more.

If your anxiety or stress or sadness persists, consider talking to a therapist. Be willing to invest your mental health just like you would your physical health. If you're noticing recurring issues, engaging care for your mental health might be the best first step forward.

Think of any other tips? Let us know!